Sunday, July 03, 2005

Mystery in Modesty

What defines a woman? Interesting question isn't it? The world seems
to tell us it's how big her bootie is or how big her...well the other
b word that I've mentioned a few times on my collection of random. I
will share a short story. Girls often struggle with their clothes and
wonder what is scandalous and what do boyz like, what should they
wear? etc etc.

A few years ago when I was in college, I had the opportunity to be
around a lot of beautiful women that loved the Lord. Much like my
life now :) Blessed I am. There was one girl in particular that
caught my eye. I don't mean that she caught my eye in that I was head
over heels etc. I was very interested in the way she dressed. See,
girls...guys check you out regardless of what you think. Guys check
girls out before we even realize we check them out. It's just part of
our nature. It's like going to a restaurant that has a buffet. Many
times, you walk in the place, and look over the buffet before you
decide to stay and eat. Bad example, but you get my point. I am
going to be honest here because honesty is good. This girl had a
really nice body. What was funny was...she never wore anything that
revealed anything about her body. I'm not saying she wore a cucumber
sack, she always wore really attractive yet modest clothes. Often
times, she would even take her sweater and tie it around her waist. I
think she did this because she had a ba donka donk, but I just wasn't
sure. She was a beautiful person...inside and out.

So on the way to a concert one time, me and a couple of guys were
talking about the way girls dress. (There were two girls also in the
car.) We were having a fun conversation and then something happpened
that made it even more interesting. I said just what I said above and
a lil more. "I know a girl that has a nice body and always wears
really modest clothing, sometimes she even ties a sweater around her
waist, etc etc" As soon as I said that, the guy in the front seat got
really excited and said..."I know exactly who you are talking
about!!!!" I was like..."there is no way, I didn't give you any more
description of her." That was all I said. Well after a few words
back and forth, I made him whisper the girl's name in my ear to see if
it really was the same one. Well it was.

Sure, if a girl wears a dress that her boobs fall out of, guys are
going to stare and probably stare for a long time. But as soon as
that girl is gone, they aren't going to think about her another
second. Thoughts gone. But you take a girl who dresses modest, she
will be remembered for a lot longer in a Godly Guy's mind. There is
something about mystery covered in modesty that is so much more
attractive than a hooker suit. If that makes sense.

It's really tough for girls, I'm sure. The world markets skin. As
guys, we don't do a very good job at encouraging as we should. A
friend of mine thanks another close girl "space" friend of mine and
says that he really appreciated the type of clothes she wore. She was
always dressed modestly. I still remember what he said and I'm sure
she does too.

I was talking to my lil sister tonight and just started thinking about
how tough it's going to be for her when she gets a little older and
has to deal with this life and all the trials that follow us.

I spoke at a sorority Bible study one time and said that there is an
easy rule about how girls can dress. If Jesus came back today, would
you need to change before He took you up? "Wait a minute Jesus, let
me put some clothes on." Sure, you clothed in righteousness, but that
skirt has got to go.


juju said...

hey JT, thanks for the post - us gals don't hear this stuff enough. it gets drowned out by the commercials, ads, and malls screaming at us to do otherwise.

Candice said...

i'm with julie. it is a great reminder. i think it got my attention for sure.

Laura said...

I agree too! Modesty is definately the way to go.

erin said... know i loved this post right after getting back from FCA leadership camp. all week i had the honor of making girls change so that we wouldnt cause our brothers to stumble. i love that camp and the premise of it...cause they strongly enforce the dress and the fact that we are there to focus on our relationships with Christ and not get distracted by the opposite sex. everyone should just shop at huh?